Dear Aspect, I lost a loved one this year, and I am worried about Christmas… do you have any advice on coping with grief during the festive period?
Firstly, we are sorry for your loss. We know that mourning the loss of loved ones is a process that never truly ends but it comes in waves and can become easier with time. During the festive period, it is essential to stay in touch with how you’re feeling. Do not feel guilty for having fun and allow yourself to enjoy the time with family, as that is what your loved one would have wanted. You also shouldn’t feel bad if you need a little cry. It can be overwhelming to lose people. It might be nice to have a toast to your loved one over dinner keeping their spirits alive within your heart. One idea could be to write a card to your loved one who has passed, it could give you a sense of connection that you might miss on Christmas, as well as an opportunity to express yourself. Do not suffer in silence.
‘Life will create chaos in our lives so that we appreciate the peaceful times and it will take those we love away from us so that we truly understand what their presence meant to us‘
Do you have any advice for students, balancing fun and rest with being productive during the Christmas break?
This is such a struggle, especially with so many deadlines being in January. It is important to stay on top of our game over the Christmas break whilst also spending time with family and unwinding. First and foremost, prioritise you! It is a Christmas break, so be sure to take time to destress, and enjoy being back home if that is where you choose to go! We find it super effective setting targets for ourselves, big and small! Anything from writing a page of revision notes to reading a chapter of your book every night. Treat yourself nicely and don’t allow yourself to get to the stage of burning out, log out when you’ve finished your daily goals and have another great day tomorrow. We’ve had a tricky year, so cut yourself some slack. You’re doing great.
Hi Aspect, I don’t feel very festive this year… I’m not sure why? Any advice on getting me in the Christmas spirit?
How dysfunctional has 2020 been? I think so many people are struggling with this… it’s felt like we deserved Christmas 1000 times over already this year, and now its finally here, we aren’t feeling it. The first thing to do is to get yourself some cosy PJs and your favourite slippers then shout ‘Alexa… play Christmas music’. Put your favourite Christmas playlist on and make yourself a schedule for watching Christmas films, at least once a week is mandatory in December. If you need help with kitting out your student home with Christmas decor on a budget, refer to our Deck The Halls article! Dedicate your weekends to all our favourite festive hobbies, get that apron back on and put that baking book to good use! Sharing love to others can make you feel 100x better, so spread some cheer this year, and we hope it returns back to you. Take care!